When we have nothing to cling to as our own and cease thinking of ourselves as people who must defend privileges, we can open ourselves freely to others with the faithful expectation that our strength will manifest itself in our shared weakness.

Most Christian leadership is exercised by people who do not know how to develop healthy, intimate relationships and have opted for power and control instead. Many Christian empire-builders have been people unable to give and receive love.

Friendship has always belonged to the core of my spiritual journey.

The fruits of your labors may be reaped two generations from now. Trust, even when you don't see the results.

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.

Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.

The greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity or power, but self-rejection.

Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.

Waiting is a period of learning. The longer we wait, the more we hear about him for whom we are waiting.

The Christian leader of the future is called to be completely irrelevant and to stand in this world with nothing to offer but his or her own vulnerable self. God loves us, not because of what we do or accomplish, but because God has created and redeemed us in love.

Solitude is the place where we can connect with profound bonds that are deeper than the emergency bonds of fear and anger.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

Prayer is the most concrete way to make our home in God.

People with handicaps teach me that being is more important than doing, the heart is more important than the mind, and caring together is better than caring alone.

The Christian leaders of the future have to be theologians, persons who know the heart of God and are trained - through prayer, study, and careful analysis - to manifest the divine event of God's saving work in the midst of the many seemingly random events of their time.

Our glory is hidden in our pain, if we allow God to bring the gift of himself in our experience of it.

Discipline means to prevent everything in your life from being filled up. Discipline means that somewhere you're not occupied, and certainly not preoccupied. In the spiritual life, discipline means to create that space in which something can happen that you hadn't planned or counted on.

Solitude is very different from a 'time-out' from our busy lives. Solitude is the very ground from which community grows. Whenever we pray alone, study, read, write, or simply spend quiet time away from the places where we interact with each other directly, we are potentially opened for a deeper intimacy with each other.

The journey from teaching about love to allowing myself to be loved proved much longer than I realised.

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.